I have touched before about forgiving the abuser on this post. Read this link about forgiveness. It hit me in the gut. Reading it, I'm also reminded that forgiveness is a process, a journey. We take each step, and like the old game, Mother May I, we may have to take some steps backwards or stay in one place for a time. A favorite line from the movie, The Second Chance, "The crazy thing about the Bible, it tells me I have to forgive you, when I want to smash your head in." I may have paraphrased that line, but you get the idea.
Jesus invites us to upside down world. He invites us to Life. And He gives us strength to do what He asks. Love one another.